The Right Valentine’s Gift for a New Flame
Finally, after months or years of single life you have started seeing someone. The person that you have met is cute, smart, funny, charming and even your friends approve. There is just one problem. You look at the calendar and it’s already February. Valentine’s Day is just a week or two away. On the plus side, you have a date this year. Dinner, a glass of wine, some chocolate cake – what could be better? But then, there is that nagging feeling. Should I give a Valentine’s gift? We have only just started dating. What would be appropriate? You don’t want to go overboard and scare them off. But then, you don’t want to blow this off either. Is this new relationship too fragile to survive a gift gaffe? Not to worry, GiftGlide is here to help.
How well do you know this person?
There are new relationships and there are new relationships. Someone that you have known for years but only recently starting seeing romantically is in a very different camp than someone that you met on Tinder last week. If this is someone that you just met, go with something small. Sweets are a very safe bet for a Valentine’s gift. A box of candy, chocolate covered strawberries or something along those lines. If you are a whiz in the kitchen, bake some cookies, a cake, or brownies. This is a great way to show off some of your personality and it walks a fine line between putting in too much effort and too little – on the one hand it takes a lot of time to bake something, on the other hand it’s something you enjoy doing. Oh, and for the guys, it’s always a good idea to get her roses. You just do not have to worry that she will think you’re trying to hard, and you really don’t want to see that look of disappointment on her face when you show up empty handed.
You have known this person forever
What if you have been friends with someone for years and years, and always sensed there was chemistry but only recently acted on it. This one is much trickier. This might be someone you have fallen in love with even before you started dating. But, this is also someone that you have only been seeing romantically for a short time. The stakes are much higher here and the earth is filled with landmines. You know this person better which helps, but then again it raises the expectations bar. Since the relationship is new, you don’t want to do something too extravagant here. Instead try for something more personal. Diamond earrings are out, earmuffs are in (if you live somewhere cold).
This is where you need to start thinking about this person. Not just day dreaming about how great they look with the wind blowing in their hair. What do they do for fun? What are their hobbies? This is a great place to start. For a tennis player, maybe a new tennis shirt. For a golfer, maybe some new golf gloves. For a painter… ok you get it. Besides hobbies, think about the biggest drags in their life – these are the times where the right gift can have an outsize impact. For someone that has a long commute to work, an audiobook or subscription to audible or Sirius XM can make the time fly by. For the frequent fliers among us, a travel pillow can make the difference between arriving exhausted and having a restful, relaxing trip.
Memorable Valentine’s Day experience
Experiences are great for new relationships because it means doing something fun together. Maybe, instead of just going out to dinner on Valentine’s Day, you take them on a helicopter tour of the city. Or, you take in a play or a concert. Maybe the experience is scheduled a week or two away. It could be a canoe trip, a horseback ride, or a class on cooking, brewing beer, painting, sculpture, sailing, or anything at all. Experiences like this can let them see you in a new light and might even create life long memories. Just don’t book a ski weekend where you share a room or a concert that is eight months away – both are too presumptive.
Even if you don’r find the perfect Valentine’s gift, just relax and have fun!
Perhaps the most important thing is not to stress out too much. You’re in a new relationship, and life is pretty good. The Valentine’s gift ideas above might help a little. And, there are plenty of other ideas here for him and for her. The perfect gift can enhance the evening but if a disastrous gift blows up the relationship, chances are it wasn’t meant to be. So, relax and enjoy the ride!